Some journeys begin with a suitcase. Others begin long
before that with a story passed down at the dinner table, a name spoken with
affection, or a photograph of a house you have never seen but somehow feel you
know.
For me, that journey began in 1947.
Partition gave us freedom from British rule and the birth of
Pakistan, but freedom came carrying an unbearable price. Millions were uprooted
from the only homes they had known. Families were separated, journeys became
desperate migrations, and the simple geography of a childhood one’s home,
school, neighbourhood, bazaar, mosque, temple, or railway station was suddenly
divided by a border.
People left with what they could carry. Many left without
knowing whether they would ever see their homes again.
And many never did.
But perhaps one of the least visible wounds of Partition was
not only the loss of homes. It was the loss of ordinary family life.
The cousins who would never grow up together. The sisters
who would never sit together on a veranda again. The brothers who would know
one another mostly through letters, photographs, and stories. The childhood
birthdays, weddings, festivals, and family gatherings that never happened.
There were children who grew up hearing about cousins they
had never met. There were grandparents who could only imagine what the other
side of the border looked like. There were families who learned to measure
distance not in miles but in memories.
My own family carries a small piece of that enormous story.
My father grew up in what is now Uttar Pradesh, India. His
childhood was rooted there in streets and bazaars, in familiar lanes and
neighbourhoods that existed in his memory long after they became inaccessible
to him.
He migrated to Pakistan.
But not everyone left.
His sisters remained behind. And that simple sentence contains an entire lifetime.
My father never spent his life looking backwards with bitterness or longing.
He loved the home he made in Pakistan. This was his country, his family, his life. He built his future here and embraced it fully.
But he did speak fondly of the life he had left behind.
Growing up, we heard little anecdotes about his childhood in
Uttar Pradesh stories about the places he had known, the people he had grown up
with, the lanes he had walked through, the neighbourhood he belonged to.
Sometimes they were just passing remarks in conversation, small fragments of a
childhood that had ended almost eight decades ago.
But those little stories stayed with me.
As a child, I listened without perhaps understanding the
significance of what I was hearing. As I grew older, however, something
changed. I began to crave the places behind those stories.
I wanted to see the lanes where my father had grown up. I
wanted to see the school he attended. The bazaar he knew. The neighbourhood
where he had played as a child. The ordinary streets that had formed the
backdrop to his earliest memories.
I wanted to stand somewhere he had once stood not because he
had asked me to, or because he spent his life longing to go back, but because
somewhere along the way, his memories had become part of mine.
“That is one of the strange things about inherited memory. You can long for a place you have never lived in.”
You can feel connected to a house you have never entered.
You can look at a street on a map and wonder whether your father once walked
down that very road as a boy.
Only those who have experienced this, those who have lived
in a house like mine, grown up with stories of a family home left behind, and
inherited a geography that exists beyond a border can perhaps truly understand
that particular kind of longing.
Life, however, did not make that distance any easier.
My father's professional life came with its own
restrictions. Being part of an organization where travel to India was not
simply a matter of deciding to go meant that, for him and for us as his
children, the border remained a very real barrier. Even when opportunities to
travel existed, there were places we could not simply visit and relatives we
could not casually go and meet.
So, the separation continued into another generation.
His sisters remained there. Their children grew up there. We
grew up here.
We knew of one another. We heard their names, saw
photographs, and heard stories about family gatherings, childhood memories, and
the places where my father had grown up. But there were ordinary experiences
that never happened the cousins who could not grow up together, the spontaneous
visits, the shared childhood adventures, the weddings and family occasions
where everyone could simply be in the same room.
And perhaps that is what borders do most cruelly: they turn
ordinary family moments into rare privileges.
When circumstances and professional commitments eventually
made travel possible, those journeys carried significance far beyond tourism.
They offered glimpses of a family history that had been divided in 1947 a
chance to meet relatives, to put faces to names, and, for my father, perhaps to
stand again in the landscape of his childhood.
For me, however, the desire to see those places had been
growing quietly for years.
Perhaps that is why watching Mein Vapis Aaon Ga stirred something so deep in me.
The film brought back that old longing not only for the
people separated by Partition, but for the physical places left behind. The
streets. The bazaars. The neighbourhoods. The ordinary corners where childhood
happened.
I found myself thinking of my father. I imagined him walking
again through those familiar streets of Uttar Pradesh. Perhaps remembering the
sound of the bazaar. Perhaps recognising a turn in the road before seeing where
it led. Perhaps wondering what had changed and what, miraculously, had remained
the same.
And I wondered what it would feel like for me to finally
stand in those lanes.
Would they look as he remembered them? Would the school
still be there? Would the neighbourhood feel familiar to me despite my never
having lived there? Would I recognize something simply because I had heard
about it so many times?
There is something profoundly emotional about wanting to see
a place you have never personally known simply because someone you love once
belonged to it.
That is how places become part of our inheritance.
I have travelled to many places in my life, but some of the journeys that matter most are not necessarily the ones I made myself. They are the journeys I have made through the memories of those who came before me.
And Partition has taught generations like ours something
about the fragility of belonging.
A border can be drawn on a map in a matter of hours. But
families do not become strangers so quickly. Memories do not respect geography.
Childhood does not understand borders.
The tragedy of 1947 was not simply that people moved from
one country to another. It was that people were forced to leave parts of
themselves behind.
Homes became memories. Neighbors became stories. Family
gatherings became photographs. And entire generations grew up with an invisible
absence at the table.
Yet there is another side to this story.
Despite the heartbreak, people rebuild. They made new homes.
They raised children. They crossed distances whenever they could. They found
ways to reconnect. They carried languages, recipes, songs, photographs,
traditions, and memories across borders.
They survived.
“Perhaps that is what we owe them now not to inherit their hatred, but to inherit their humanity.”
Nearly eight decades after Partition, the wounds have not
disappeared entirely. Some families still carry stories of loss that were never
properly spoken about. But perhaps our generation has an opportunity to
remember 1947 differently.
Not only as a political event. Not only as the creation of
two countries. But as millions of individual human stories.
A father left his childhood home. A mother losing her
sister. A brother separated from his siblings. A child growing up without
knowing his cousins. A family waiting for a letter. The photograph kept
carefully in a drawer. A Street remembered for decades. And a longing,
sometimes so quiet that it passes from one generation to the next, to simply go
back and see where it all began.
For me, that longing is deeply personal.
I was not born in my father's childhood home. I did not walk
those streets. I did not know the bazaars he knew.
But because he did, a small part of those places belong to
me too.
Perhaps that is the strange inheritance of Partition: we
inherited countries, but we also inherited memories of places that exist on the
other side of a border.
And sometimes, when a film, a photograph, a song, or a story
opens that old door, we realise that the journey home is not always about
returning to a place.
Sometimes, it is about returning to a memory.
To understand where our parents came from. To imagine the childhood,
they left behind. To mourn the moments our families never got to have. And,
ultimately, to understand that independence should never make us forget the
enormous human cost that accompanied it.
We were given a country. But countless families paid for
that freedom with homes, journeys, relationships, memories and pieces of their
hearts.
Perhaps the most fitting tribute to them is not to remain
trapped in the pain of 1947, but to build a future in which no generation must
experience that kind of separation again.
A future where borders may exist between countries, but not between hearts.
And perhaps, somewhere in all of this, my father's old
streets still live not only in Uttar Pradesh, but in the stories, he left with
us.
Places I have never lived in. Places I may never fully know.
Yet somehow, they feel like home.
Anila Ansari: anilaaansari@gmail.com
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